Driving
MEN. When driving with a woman, a man should be careful that the carriage is well drawn up to the steps, and that she be given time in which to comfortably seat herself before he begins to drive.
A man when driving with a woman should refrain from asking her permission to smoke, and, of course, would never do so without her permission.
He should be careful to lift his hat as if he were on the street, and if this is not possible, to touch it with the whip in place of a bow.
The host of a coaching party, if he is also the whip, would give the chaperone the seat on the box at the left of his, unless he wished that seat to be occupied by some special young woman. The person occupying this seat should always be helped by the host to climb to her place.
It is customary when the coach is a high one to seat a woman between two men, and they would ascend and descend in the order in which they were seated.
Even if the woman asks a man to drive with
her, he should help her to her seat, and be
ready to step down when a halt is made to
assist her to alight.
It is not customary when a woman has asked a man to drive with her for her to call for him at his club or home, but to meet him at her house.
DRESS. The whip wears a gray suit with a gray high hat and gray gloves, with a white silk tie and white linen. But in summer this costume is often made lighter and more comfortable to suit the weather, and a straw hat or panama, with flannel trousers and dark serge sacque coat, would be in good taste.
There are no hard and fast rules governing
the dress of men when driving.
WOMEN. The etiquette in general is the same
for a woman as for a man.
When a woman asks a man or a male relative to drive with her, she does not call for him, but meets him at her door. Even if a groom is present, he should help her to mount to her seat, and at the proper time descend before her and help her to alight.
DUCHESS—HOW ADDRESSED. An official letter begins:
Madam, may it please Your Grace, and ends:
I have the honor to remain your Grace’s obedient
servant.
A social letter begins: My Dear Duchess of
Kent, and ends: Believe me, dear Duchess,
yours very truly.
The address on the envelope is: To Her
Grace, The Duchess of Kent.
DUCHESS, DOWAGER—HOW ADDRESSED. An official letter begins: May it please YOUR Grace, and ends: I have the honor to remain your Grace’s obedient servant.
A social letter begins: My dear Duchess
Of Kent, and ends: Believe me, dear Duchess,
yours very truly.
The address on the envelope is: To Her
Grace, The Dowager Duchess of Kent, or, To
Her Grace, Minnie, Duchess of Kent.
DUKE—HOW ADDRESSED. An official letter begins:
My Lord Duke, may it please your grace, and
ends: I have the honor to be your grace’s most
obedient servant.
A social letter begins: My dear Duke of
Kent, and ends: believe me, dear Duke, your
Grace’s very faithfully.
The address on the envelope is: To His
Grace, The Duke of Kent.
DAUGHTER OF. See Daughter of Duke.
WIFE OF YOUNGER SON OF. See Wife of
Younger Son of Duke.
YOUNGER SON OF. See Son (Younger) of Duke.
EARL—HOW ADDRESSED. An official letter begins:
My Lord, and ends: I have the honor to be
your lordship’s obedient servant.
The address on the envelope is: To the
Right Honorable The Earl Of Kent.
A social letter begins: Dear Lord Kent,
and ends: Believe me my dear Lord Kent,
very sincerely yours.
The address on the envelope is: To the
Earl of Kent
DAUGHTER OF. See Daughter of Earl.
WIFE OF YOUNGER SON. See Wife of Younger
Son of Earl.
YOUNGER SON OF. See Son (Younger) of Earl.
EGGS are usually broken into a glass and eaten with a spoon.
ELEVATOR. Men should remove their hats when riding in an elevator with women, although it is held by some that an elevator is as much a public conveyance as a car, and this act of courtesy as unnecessary in the one place as in the other. Women enter and leave before men.